If you go to a 9.5" wide, you will most likely need to roll/pull your fenders. The offset is easier to create the flushness you want.
If you have crap roads and don't want to lower the car b/c of that, I would imagine that going to a larger wheel with a lower profile tire won't be helpful to you and could damage tire/wheels quicker.
In addition, if you keep the tire diameter and suspension the same, the "filling" of the wheel wells is only psychological b/c the tires will have the same gap.
Not trying to be a downer but you are having the same thoughts I went through about 2 years ago and waiting to wear out my stocks before making the swap. Will go to Rota SVN(unless I get a deal on RE30's) 18x8.5 +48 wheels on 245/45/18 Conti DWS or DW.
There is an aggressive tire thread. That might give you an idea what you are looking for and there are a few helpful comments on size and what they did to make them fit.
Dave